Dear Single Christian

Dear Single Christian,

It’s holiday season…again. And for some of you this means that you’re single…again and it’s tough. Believe me, I get it, but I want to encourage you with 2 thoughts today.

1. Dear Single Christian, I want to encourage you to have faith.

I know this may not be what you feel like you need right now, but I can assure you it is. As Christians, we have the faith definition memorized by heart, but if we’re honest, sometimes it’s hard to apply to this particular area of our lives, because things may look quite bleak.

Let’s revisit the scripture.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

Hebrews 11:1 NIV

Dear Single Christian, I am asking you to believe again.

I want you to start believing in what you can’t see. I know the dating pool is full of pee and the bar is in the hot place, but I want to encourage you to have faith.

All that you see is not all that there is.

God has more people than you know about. Just because you haven’t met your spouse yet, does not mean they do not exist. Trust the Lord.

Have faith that God has someone just for you even though you cannot see it right now. Isn’t that what faith is all about anyhow?

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2. Dear Single Christian, please wait for God’s best.

Recently, my cousin and I found ourselves discussing singleness and how frustrating waiting is. At the end of our conversation, I concluded that waiting is a necessity if you want God’s best and you want to avoid unnecessary stress and heartache.

You and I can attempt to rig our way out of the “waiting system” by attempting to figure out our own path, but it won’t end well. Rigging the system may look like…

• Having sneaky links
• Living on dating apps to fill a void
• Juggling multiple partners
• Indulging in things we shouldn’t (activities, music, “entertainment”, etc.) or
• Willfully ignoring God-given convictions

but guess what?

IT AIN’T GONE HELP, IT’S ONLY GOING TO HURT. YOU’RE STILL GONNA HAVE TO WAIT.

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God does not care about our timelines, because He stands outside of time and He redeems it.

Instead, He cares about our development and obedience. So there ain’t no bypassing the process. Think about Abraham and Sarah’s attempt to “help God” (see Genesis 16 & 21). They knew God promised them a son, but God was taking “too long”. They took matters into their own hands and ended up with an unwelcome “sister-wife” and a cast aside son, Ishmael. Other consequences of their decision included stress, jealously, marital discord, abuse, and abandonment just to name a few. And guess what…THEY STILL HAD TO WAIT.

So I want to encourage you to just wait. Do not to expend your mind, body, and emotions on random people you don’t even really like. Wait on the Lord. He knows what’s best for you and He has what’s best for you.

Prayer

Father, thank You for my single brothers and sisters. Father, I ask that You would fuel their waiting with faith. Help them to believe again. Heal them from scars from the past and renew their hope in You. I know You are able to do exceedingly abundantly more than they can ask or think so this singleness thing is not too hard for You. Surround them with people who understand what they are going through and still point them right back to You. In Jesus’ name, I pray, amen.

Final Notes

I want to apologize for failing to keep my promise to release Stay in Your Lane: Pt. 2, but if you have followed my blog for a while you know I do my best to be led by the Holy Spirit. He laid this topic on my heart around midnight and here I am up writing at 1:30 a.m. lol. Thank you for understanding.

I hope this blessed you. If you know someone who needs it, please share it with them.

Biggest hugs,

Ayanna